Anna's Big Adventure

Let it be known first off that bringing Anna to France sounded like an impossible undertaking. And that was before I even looked into how to do it. Once I did that, I realized just how crazy it could get.

First there are the requirements of the US government...Anna had to have a Health Certificate done by a sponsoring vet (and there is no list of said sponsoring vets). France requires the Health Certificate to be bilingual and Anna needed a micro-chip placed and afterwards a rabies shot. And those things needed to be done 21 days before she entered the country. And then Delta airlines required the Health Certificate to be no more than 10 days old when she flew with them. And she needed to be in a crate that had metal bolts and nuts (which is not available ANYWHERE to purchase so you have to but the crate and then outfit it yourself with the bolts). And Delta charges $200 one way for dogs to travel. And we were flying from Boston, to NY and then to Nice.  So to save money and Anna's sanity, we rented a van...and drove to JFK airport and then put Anna on the plane. She was in airline hands for upwards of 13 hours before we saw her again.

Tired yet?

Needless to say...for the entire flight I was consumed with worry for Anna.  The worse part is knowing that there is absolutely nothing I could do. They had her and I had to wait. And once we cleared passport control in Nice, we waited anxiously at the luggage belt...wondering if she would come through with our bags.  One bag, then another..then another....and no Anna.

I happened to glance over at the far end of the huge room full of people and bags and conveyor belts to see Anna's huge crate sitting in the middle of everything.  Running over, weaving through the people I made my way to her.  As I approached the crate began to shift from side to side..Anna was just fine, wagging her tail and almost tipping the huge crate over.

And customs? There wasn't one single person there to even glance at our paperwork. We just walked right through. I wanted to ring a bell at the counter and say "Excuse me! Could you please look at my paperwork and scan my dog's micro-chip? I worked hard for it and I want to be inspected!"  I know...I'm a crazy American.  So without a hitch and with unimaginable simplicity, Anna is now with us in France.

How is she doing? Just fine. She enjoys being treated like a royal grandchild by my mother-in-law. She walks along the olive tree garden...she is pet by strange French people who coo to her in French and she just stares at them from the corner of her eye. Spending most of her time basking in the sun on the balcony and watching the traffic headed to Italy by our house. She chases the pigeons and naps in a tiny ball on her cushion by the TV while Denise watches the evening news.

Anna does seem sad at moments when I know she is thinking about my mother and father...Jen and Kathryn too.  I know she wonders where they are, why they aren't here with us. It feels good to be together with Anna and Dennis again but I know (as Anna knows too) that we are missing some very important people and there is a hole in our lives and our hearts. That hole will only be filled when we are all together again.

Crochet Crazy

It all began with the idea of a hobby.  You know, a hobby...that thing you do just for the joy of doing something. Its a time waster, lets face it.  In all honesty, hobbies are mostly valueless and everybody you know can't understand why you do it.

Be that as it may, I went to Michael's craft store to discover a new time waster for myself. I was headed toward counted cross stitch because it was familiar, comfortable...I had waster time with that before.  My sister Kathryn mocked me heavily when she saw the pattern for some useless counted cross stitch item in my hands.  And due completely to her mockery and pressure I purchased instead a book entitled:

CROCHET CUTE ANIMALS

Adam

Yes...I suddenly was filled with the need, the fire of desire, the raw hunger to crochet cute animals. With yarn in hand I began my first project.  Now I will say that my first owl was hard for me. The wording was confusing, seemingly written in sand script or maybe Latin. I was fumbling and cursing when my mother patiently explained the basics of the pattern.  Soon Mister Owl was complete, although slightly cross eyed and leaning on one foot and being affectionately called "chocolate jellybean" by Kathryn.  I gave him to my sister Jen and began searching for my next project. Online there is a treasure trove of free patterns for just about every animal you can imagine. 

Marmaduke

And even some fungi, which was my next creation. My mushroom is a    thing of beauty and I gave that to Kathryn, complete with a green grass lawn, flower and an acorn!

Maybe Shrooms aren't your thing? Well, soon after this I began to dabble in farm animals, specifically pigs. I found the pattern I wanted and with it, Charlotte was born. After Charlotte, there have been some variations in both size and color and even the addition of wings for those of you who appreciate the idea of pigs flying. I also created a penguin upon request. Marmaduke came out perfect and sits on a windowsill in the south of Florida, watching over the comings and goings of a dear friend of mine. I hear from Charlotte still and the adventures she gets embroiled in. My animals remain close to me, never losing contact no matter the distance from me and their adoptive families. 

Charlotte The Party Pig

Living at my parent's house for almost a month, separated from Dennis and lots and lots of yarn began to have it's effect on me. 

Horatio

Horatio the Wiener dog.....A couple of Love Pigs for my sister and her husband's 20th wedding anniversary, complete with matching heart tattoos on their bums.

Anniversary Love Pigs

 An Elephant commissioned by my mother for a close friend of hers (all I will say about this one is that the trunk gave me trouble and I had to go beyond what the pattern asked for in order to keep things in the proper perspective)

Ray

The Manta Ray was so popular that first I made Wilbur (as seen here) for my step-daughter Denise and then I had to make another Ray for my father because the picture looked too cute to pass up. I created a panda bear that had such a round belly and butt that he could not sit on his own two ball feet properly but no one faulted him for that. 

There came to be quite a animal family grouped on my mother's table...growing each day and decreasing each day, depending on my production and how many visitors we had. Time without Dennis flew a little easier with my hobby. And as it turns out, there were many laughs and snorts and gifts created from this time waster I took up.  Some of my fondest memories are in the early stages when it was never really clear, not even to me, what I was creating. This would turn into a guessing game from my family which never resulted in an accurate guess. I also found that throwing the animal at my mocker resulted in a nice thud, an unexpected bonus.  I'm still crocheting, working on pigs still in several sizes and a tree frog is next on my list. Thank you to my faithful fans and family who support my wildest projects. Maybe this will be a success story beyond my merest hobbiest dreams and my crocheted animals will take me to fame and fortune.  Or a full cabinet in my mother's house of crocheted animals with the echo of  the laughter they brought. 

When pigs fly

Where Have I Been?

Who knew I would be missed?  It's been some time since I've sat down to write. This is mostly due to my being back in RI with my family.  I guess I haven't had much time to write. Also, there is so much that simply cannot be put in to words (I'm sure you know what I mean)

The month here visiting is coming to a close, Thursday I leave for two weeks in FL.  Dennis has been in France this past month, taking care of his mother without me. It has been a very difficult separation for both of us, the kind that cannot possible be properly expressed with words. Needless to say, we have sworn to each other that it will be the last goodbye. Let's hope we can keep that promise.

So what have I been doing?  Believe it or not, exercising has been a daily event for me since coming home. If you know me at all, you know how funny it is for me to even write that. Working out is not something I do without a fight.  And actually watching what I eat. France, in 7 short weeks, tempted me into more weight gain then I care to discuss here and I am slowly making an effort to eradicate that problem. Hopefully my "cheese roll", "fig roll", and "bread roll" will soon be a thing of the past.  Eating here is so very different...I have slipped somewhat back into eating for survival.  Sad really..but necessary when you consider how porky one can get and how quickly it can happen. As a friend of mine once said, "Sarah, you need to do something".

Besides NOT eating and working out...I have spent lovely hours crocheting all manner of tiny animals. Yes, crocheting. I have heard the jokes...the calls of "old Lady" and "Grannie"  but I can't help myself, I love to make them. Pigs and Penguins...and Pandas too.  So there is a table in my parents' living room that has become Noah's Ark of crocheted animals, if you can imagine such a thing.

Being with Anna again is perfect too.  I worry that she and I will be missing something by always being apart...but she seems just the same, as far as I can tell.  I have been readying her for her French adventure. Tomorrow she goes to the vet for her microchip...stay tuned.  We walk together every day. When I sit by the window to read, Anna will come sit beside me with her head just within reach to be pet. She is a constant comforting presence.

Its amazing how slow and how quick a month can pass, isn't it? It drags at night...one sleepless minute crawling past after another. But once the sun rises, I can't hold on to the hours and whole chunks are gone before I can stop for a breath.  I am ready to go and I am dreading goodbye.

The weather has turned cool...not that I am complaining by any means! The leaves aren't brilliant this year but the change in seasons is still enjoyable for me. The crunch of oak leaves under my feet, the frosty grass in the early morning, the need to wear a sweatshirt even indoors.  The sky is heart-stoppingly blue this time of year. Its my favorite thing about Autumn in New England. It feels like it could crush you or carry you off, all at the same time.

So I am hanging around at 36 State Street, with my parents and my sister Kate. Just enjoying the familiarity of the people whom I call home, enjoying my mom cooking for me and chatting with her every day, enjoying the sound of Kathryn's music streaming out from under her door and the smell of candles in the air, enjoying my father searching for music online every night and tapping out the beat with his feet while he is lost inside his noise-deafening headphones. I am back. It isn't foreign to me, it is where my people are. This is my tribe.

Just last night, Dennis, Denise and I were invited down the street to our friend's house for dinner.  Mary-Beth and Gordon are a loving and giving couple who lavish their kindness on us in many ways.  Eating dinner at their house is a special treat.  Another couple from Biot, Louise and Roy, were also there.  As usual the food was spectacular as was the cheddar cheese :) and for me a treat of vodka that Gordon purchased for me to try.  It had a lovely hint of summer grass with sweet clover.  Amazing.

But more than the food and drink.  The time spent with people who really care and open their hearts and homes to you, sharing all they have with you, is what I still feel wrapped around me this morning.  It lingers around my heart like the bouquet of a favorite perfume that clings to the clothing long after it has been applied.  A sweet hint wafting around me.  To know and enjoy the company of true companions, people who will laugh with you and cry, visit your mother in the hospital and stay with her so that she is not alone or scared.  People who give and give without ever asking for a return, who shake off thanks and refuse compliment.  I feel humbled by the love we have been shown here.  When we need help or we have questions, someone unfailingly comes to our rescue, expending themselves for our sakes.  On our first visit to France, a family we had never met invited us to dinner but when we explained that we didn't have a car to drive to their home, they gave us theirs to use for the entire month. And then again invited us to dinner.  What a brotherhood, what a family of loved ones we have here protecting us and sharing what they have with us.  Thank you to each of them for the lovely meals and sleepovers we have enjoyed, thank you for the love they have shown Denise, a stranger to them in many ways, and thank you for trying so hard to speak to me in English so that I am not too lost and confused.  Your kindess and compassion should be marked and remembered.  It will be, forever, by me.

We are headed home to RI and FL at the end of this week, to be pampered and cared for by long known friends and loving family.  Dennis and I feel blessed beyond words by the friends and family we have, here and in the States, that have worked so hard to support us and help us so that we can help Denise.  Thank you from the very bottom of our full hearts. No matter where we are, we never feel alone.  And we are always home.

Reflections

What is home? Beyond the cliques and the poets, the song lyrics and the comics…what makes us feel home?  For my mother-in-law (my belle-mére) this apartment with the views of the sea is home for her.  With the collections of  pictures on every surface and every wall, with the piano in the corner with the bust of Beethoven sitting on top, staring sightlessly out at me.  With the orange awnings that must be wound up or down throughout the day depending on the location of the sun. The sound of scooters and motorbikes zooming by and the parking lot below her balcony with its constant traffic to keep her occupied and entertained.  Home to her is here, in France.  No matter how hot it gets or cold, no matter how far it is from her children.  This is where her sweaters are and her slippers.  This is where her memories are. This is where she wants to be.

I remember most the smell of home.  Earliest memory tells me that the smell of safety and home was imbedded in my mother’s sweater.  Not just any or every sweater she had. It was one specific sweater, ivory colored with big buttons.  Not scratchy wool, most likely cotton and it smelled like mom.  Like comfort.  Not a specific perfume or product.  Just the essence of my mother and no matter what, with that sweater I felt everything would be ok.  It was powerful.  It was home. When I felt scared without her, the sweater calmed me down.

Here, living in a foreign land with no markers of my own, I feel like I’m drifting through a current, in someone else’s home.  I have no mom sweater.  I’ve heard people say that home is where your love is.  Well, my love is here.  My heart is in France.  But my spirit is adrift. Maybe I am without physical location currently and therefore am not at rest.  I have been rootless for so long, drifting from roommate to parents to living with my in-law…perhaps my soul is in a holding pattern..like a hummingbird not ready to land.  For me, home is what I carry with me, deep inside me.  The stories I know, told and untold, the memories I cherish and the dreams I hold dear.  And some day I will have walls to pin those memories up on and slippers to keep.  But for now, home is a goal, a distant hope and the reality is constant movement and change,  the sweet nectar of a passing flower.

Heat Wave

It's a heat wave.  The weather has turned on me and we now are enjoying 90 degree days with tons of humidity and no breeze.  The water of the Mediterranean is still and the tops of the trees outside my window are likewise motionless.  The fan I depend on in our room stopped turning, just began to slow and then completely gave out a few days ago and refused to move.  So we were forced to move the portable AC unit into our room and we keep nice and cool while we sleep.  Denise is not bothered by the heat at all and so when I woke at 2 AM for a drink of water I noticed that every door was shut in the house and Denise was sleeping deeply, covered up in her flannel sheets and several wool blankets.  I quickly ran down the hallway and dove into the cool bliss of our room.  An added bonus is that the whir of the AC blocks out almost all scooter noises at night from the road. We live along a very busy route between Monaco and Italy with constant traffic coming and going.  Even in the small hours of the night, scooters and motor bikes throttle along on their way to where ever but with the cool wind from the AC unit I've named Gus, I am not disturbed from my dreams.

A few nights ago, we had taken Denise for a walk down by the water at dusk.  With the setting of the sun, the tourists and locals take to the streets looking for food and entertainment.  It was about 8 PM that we found ourselves on the cliff walk listening to the waves crashing along the rocks, sneaking a peak at an outdoor restaurant with tables set right on the rocks and the smell of barbeque wafting up towards us.  Once the land begins to cool a heavy scent of wild jasmine fills the air.  We have searched  for the flowers themselves but can never seem to find them. However, the scent is every where like a mist hanging about your shoulders as you walk at night here. Only at night.

Once we could no longer maneuver Denise's chair in the dark along the sidewalk and around the ancient trees that break through the pavement and hang toward the water, we came home and ate a late late dinner on the rear balcony, watching the lights of Monaco twinkle in the distance.  With one candle lit on the table, we sipped wine and listened to Denise tell us stories of the farm she lived in as a child.  Of washing clothes over the fire, of reading by kerosene lamps at night.  For entertainment, her step-mother played the piano in the evenings. She spoke fondly of the 'modern' house in Marseilles that they moved into after her father sold the farm/vineyard and how she remembers how excited she was by the bathroom with its running hot water. When Dennis would ask something that Denise could not remember she would say to him in her French accent, "I don't remember Denny, I didn't think to write it down". And when we spoke of how different life is now she said, “we did not know what we were missing or what we did not have. We didn’t miss electricity or running hot water or washing machines because we never knew of them. We were happy as we were”.  And as she spoke with the soft candle light flickering on her face, with her eyes cast back through to the years of her youth, I could see a glimpse of the young woman she must have been, smiling at her future, living in a simpler time before war came to the country and changed everything.

"Who sees this?"

It something Dennis and I had begun to say to each other during our first visit to France together last summer.  Every direction we looked, we saw something amazing.  We experienced things that most people just never get to.  It left us feeling awed.  And we feel it still.

This visit is no different.  So far the weather has been very kind to me. None of the humidity that I feared. Clear skys and cool breezes.  We haven't needed to plug in our tiny portable AC unit, not even once yet.  And now that we have the mosquito net, I am practically without bites.  Horray!!

Yesterday we spent the day allowing cousin Bernard to drive us up and into the Alps.  We wove in between France and Italy, winding our way through roads that disappeared into nothing just beyond the edge of the car. The air was cool and clear, it gave you the feeling that you were the very first person to breath it.  We drove right to the top, above the tree line.  There were quite a few people along the way but its not surprising since this is the vacation season for most of Europe. Cyclists and 4x4 drivers alike, rumbling along roads that have been carved along the side of the mountain. The view constantly changing as you turn each corner and always the feeling that you should be yodeling.

Dennis loves all things historic and especially WW II artifacts so we walked through a desserted army barracks.  With the roof and all other bits of wood gone and only the stones to testify to where man had left his mark, we wandered through the ruins. Amazing that this building was placed at the very top of the mountain, surrounded by nothing all around. Where did the stone come from? What was it like to be here over 60 years ago......all that work for the sake of war. It felt so gloomy and desolate, walking in the shadows of those walls.

Even with the hot August sun in the cloudless sky above us, there was a feeling of chill that I am certain never completely leaves this ruined spot. Only imagine what it must look like in the darkest hours of winter.

We stopped in a local sky lodge area and feasted in the sunshine as only the Europeans can. Lamp and fresh veggies, bread and bread and more bread along with local cheese and a blueberry tart that my husband fought me over every single bite. Lunch took several hours and the break from sitting in the car was lovely.  Soon we were off again, driving roads that no 20+ Mercedes should be able to handle.  Bernard, our fearless guide, knew the story of every nook and cranny we passed.  There was always a waterfall to investigate or a mountainside farm to stop at and buy cheese and honey.

Literally, we were driving one moment, climbing along when we crested the very top of the mountain. Along a valley to our right was a tiny house and one car parked in the drive. There were the sound of cow bells tinkling from the cow herd walking by.  Bernard urged us to go buy some cheese.  'From where?' I thought.  But without hesitation, we left the car behind and walked down to the house.  There was no sign and no sign of life. But sure enough, within the open door was an Italian woman wearing an apron and gesturing for us to come in.  She let us sample her stock and we purchased not only cheese but honey as well. 

Back into the faithful car and off we go again.  Winding through tunnels and rock strewn roads, drinking in the view until we became intoxicated and still we wanted more. Always, which ever way you looked, you thought "who get's to see this?, who does this?"  Well, we did and we still feel amazed.